Climbing the ladder of the scaffolding, hard hat and high-viz on, I stopped to wonder what I was doing. I was surrounded by dust, mud and concrete with guys shouting, drilling and hammering all around me. Yet I realised how quickly this had all become normal to me.
When had my life changed so suddenly?
When had a young girl, scared of heights who would never leave the house wearing ugly work boots, become the girl covered in mud in the middle of a building site?
More shocking than this change is my apparent enjoyment of standing in the middle of a building site covered in mud. I grew up with a plan of how my life would be. I wanted to study and go on to teach, I wanted to be married by 22 and to have children young (yes, I planned everything). Independence scared me. I thought if I planned my life so precisely, the future would be less terrifying. As it turns out, I’m beginning to quite like the future and the unknown.
I studied History at university with the goal of becoming a teacher when I graduated. Whilst studying I worked part-time as a teaching assistant and volunteered in various children’s group/summer programmes. I was well on my way to achieving the goal I had set myself when, in my final year of university I stopped and thought about what I actually wanted. It turns out, no matter how much you plan and organise you can’t make yourself want something. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my future, I just knew that teaching wasn’t for me. I was in a slight predicament as I’d spent the last few years of education building up to this and now I had no plan. However, I had worked really hard at my degree and was awarded a scholarship for a masters. I loved studying, I loved History, I loved writing I figured it was a no-brainer. I accepted and thought my life was sorted (at least for another year).
I graduated and spent the summer relaxing whilst beginning my new research. I went camping in North Wales and as various people asked what I planned to do after university, I just informed them that I was going to carry on as an ‘eternal student’. It was only when one of my friends asked me at dinner one evening if I really wanted to do the masters did I begin to question my plan. I assumed I wanted to, it gave me an extra years thinking time, I enjoyed studying, I didn’t really have to do anything to get a place. He then asked why I was doing it and I honestly didn’t have an answer. I think I brushed it off and the conversation moved to something else.
It was only then that I fully saw that continuing study for me would just be a crutch. I was scared of the future. I was scared of independence. I was the type of person that needed a plan but I had never stopped to think about why I was doing it and I’d never considered what God wanted me to do.
I came home from camp and after lots of prayer I decided to decline my post-graduate place at uni. For the first time in my twenty-one years I had no plan. I had no idea what I was going to do next, but strangely I felt totally at peace with my decision. I began applying for jobs in various sectors whilst keeping myself busy working in schools and church groups. For me job hunting was one of the most humbling experiences (second only to actually working). It turns out the world isn’t dying to employ a young graduate with a history degree and little life experience.
However, God had a plan that I would never have considered. I now work for a Construction Company where I spend 60% of time in an office and the rest out on site. It came at just the right time and though it was never what I expected – I love it. I love the challenge and not knowing what the day will bring. I love meeting all sorts of new people. I love travelling and I love the look on faces when I tell them I work on building sites (even if that’s not quite the full story).
Sometimes we don’t know what the future will bring and sometimes that’s scary but God has something far, far better planned.